2: The first 3 days after a breakup – sadness VS time

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Hey it’s me, Yuki.

In my last video, I talked about how I feel now our relationship has ended.
We had our problems just like any other couple who met naturally, although we met on a reality TV show.
I­’ll say this again; you are only hearing one side of the story and every story has two sides. I just want to share my story and how I coped which may be helpful to someone out there going through a horrible break up.

No breakup is never easy.
Especially if you thought you would be together forever with that person; the sense of loss is unbearable. The first 3 days after my ex left me, I didn’t cry because I was in too much shock.

I googled inside and out, ‘how to get him back’ type of things. I learned that psychologically, there is a time delay between men and women experiencing sadness or a sense of loss after a breakup.
Women tend to feel sad straight after, while men feel more relieved. A few months later, women start to feel relieved and happy, while men tend to feel sad.

Have you had your ex text you a few months after you’ve broke up saying “how are you?” when you’ve recovered and almost forgotten about him. The moment you see that text, you think to yourself ‘it’s too late’.

So, what I want to say is if you’re wondering how your ex is feeling, he’s probably feeling the opposite of what you are feeling right now.

The first 3 days after my breakup, I didn’t cry, I couldn’t eat or think straight, because I was in shock. Then I slowly started telling close friends and family what had happened. Everyone reacts differently in these kinds of situations.
Of course, my close friends knew me well and how I react after break ups. Some phoned me straight away and made time to talk to me, some texted me almost every day for the next 2 weeks, some made sure I was eating, sleeping and doing everyday tasks and just listened to me.
If your friend is going through a bad break up, make sure you keep in contact with her.
Go see her or send her messages even if she doesn’t reply. I almost think if I didn’t have that love and support from my friends, I wouldn’t have recovered as quickly.

Every single person reacts differently after a breakup.
If you are going through a breakup and you want to cry, you should cry until you feel hungry. I won’t judge you if you want to eat a whole container of ice cream if that make you feel better!
One thing I suggest is to stop is ringing your ex or sending him messages. You might want an explanation from him, hear his voice for just a minute or want to know where he is.
I will explain why in my next video. I have done this so many times in the past, where I’ve rung an ex constantly and left heaps of voice mails.
I really don’t want you to make the same mistakes that I’ve made.

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